The Guide To Becoming The Sensuous Black Woman
(And Drive Your Man Wild In And Out Of Bed)
by "Miss T."
Available in Bookstores in December 2005
About "Miss T." - Me!
Whom am I? Well, I personally don't believe who I am, or who wrote this book, is important as long as it's been written. I believe a book such as this is long past due. But my dear publisher insists that I say a little somethng something about myself.
This is particularly hard to do since I prefer to remain anonymous -- hence my decision to use the pseudonym "Miss T." But since I agreed to write a little about myself, I shall.
I was raised in both New York City and Washington D.C. and am in my early forties (You don't really believe I should reveal my exact age, do you?) and of course I'm a working girl. No! Not that kind of working girl. Ladies, please . . . get your minds out of the gutter!
I grew up believing I wasn't pretty and since I so convinced myself, other people just naturally followed my cue. I find it hard to believe now, but I -- like so many women -- suffered from very low-esteem. I was therefore willing to do anything to get and keep a man, and then couldn't understand why no man really wanted me for long.
It wasn't until I was almost twenty before I realized how ridiculous I was being, and how cruel I had been to myself. I then took it upon myself to study the women around me whom I admired to find out what it was about them that made them so different from me. The first thing I noticed was their attitude. They had this air about them that said "I've got it going on, and any man should be proud to have me on their arm. But I'm not giving myself to just any man."
Then I had to study further to figure out what the hell it is they had going on.
I was a good student, and I learned quickly and thoroughly -- and now I've decided to pass the information on.
For years, friends and colleagues have come to me asking me for advice about men because they've seen my success with the opposite sex. I've always tried to help, but really only in dribs and drabs. I never sat anyone down to give them a full blow-by-blow exposition. Not because I was being selfish, but because I was being lazy.
A few years ago I was having lunch with an old friend, Karen E. Quinones Miller, and I jokingly said that I should write a how-to book on getting a man, and while we were eating we kind of fleshed out the idea and came to agreement about what should be in the book. It went from a 'how-to book on getting a man' to a 'how-to book on a woman meeting her potential of becoming a fully sensuous woman.' And that's how "The Guide To Becoming A Sensuous Black Woman," came to be. Of course it still took me about five years to get around to writing the book, but it's finally finished, and I hope you'll get a lot out of it.
Why do I want to remain anonymous? Well, some of the material contained in "The Guide To Becoming The Sensuous Black Woman" is rather risqué, but that's okay. It's just that I'm not willing to publicly take on the mantle of sex-expert -- there's nothing wrong with the mantle, but it would upset my life right now and right now I don't want my life upset.
For that reason I'm going to be on the down-low, at least for the moment.
Karen has convinced me to add an Advice Column to this website so please feel free to write me with any questions you might have. Just write "Advice Request" in the subject line and send your emails to sensuousblackwoman@comcast.net I promise advice questions will be answered by me personally, although Karen will be posting them to this site since I don't know how (and really have no desire to learn.)
So I hope you enjoy my book, but more importantly, I hope you get a lot out of it. People are already bugging me to write another book, and maybe I'll break down and do just that. So keep posted!